I've just had one of the hardest weeks I've had in a long time. I'd forgotten how difficult love and relationships can be. I'd forgotten about the BIG problems.
Boundaries are such a strange thing. It's funny that everybody just assumes that everybody else has the same boundaries, as if there is some complicit agreement that because you agreed to be with somebody, you agreed to accept everything about them. It's also funny how boundaries never get discussed until something "bad" happens, sometimes not until it's too late.
Luckily it wasn't too late for me and for us, but for a while it felt like the timer was winding down to the last few seconds. And during those moments, I thought that I just couldn't handle another break-up. Especially this time around, when I wouldn't be able to extricate myself from the other person's life and friends and inevitable witness to each other moving on as completely as I've been able to in the past.
But I don't have to worry about that now. We decided as couple that we would grow rather than grow apart. I'm surprisingly optimistic.
2 comments:
First, your Blog is Beautiful!!! A fantastic (now with 100% more optimism) version of you. Kudos.
Second, I recommend two books that are about Open Relationships. Not to say that relationships should be open, but they explore other types of intimacy and for me helped to open my mind to the possibilities of Love without Possession.
Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines For Responsible Open Relationships (Paperback) by Wendy-O Matik
The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt
glad to hear you have worked things out... I have not, nor do I want to, as the trust is gone.
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